Dating rules playing hard to get
In other words, we’re taught to say “no” when we really mean “yes,” but that saying “yes” too soon means “desperate.” By teaching our girls to reject until deserving of approval, we’re consciously teaching the boys who date them that a girl’s “no” will eventually turn into a “yes” if persistent enough.
Mix that in with a storm of fiery hormones and male competitiveness, and you’ve got yourself careening down a slippery slope into rape culture.
While most 20th-century couplings were either formed in workplaces and colleges or through friends and families, online dating sites and dating apps are fast becoming the most common way of meeting partners and now account for about 20 per cent of heterosexual couplings and more than two-thirds of same-sex couplings in the US.
Once social interaction takes place, other traits come into their own.
Often times you’ll try to censor yourself on dates and in job interviews, figuring out ways to make all of your quirky attributes seem endearing and irresistible.
Play a little hard to get by mentioning how much your current employer values your work or notify a recruiter that you are entertaining other offers. “To call or not to call.” Like an amazing second date, you just had an incredible interview.
Whether sliding into someone’s DMs or mentioning that you remember a detail about them, you must tread lightly if you aren’t fairly certain how they feel about you.
Yes, sometimes when daters do nothing, they’re doing something.
Dating and interviewing for a new job have more in common than one might think.
You dress up for both, think through what you’ll say, try to put your best foot forward.
“Don’t be too easy.” “Always leave him wanting more.” “Make him work for it.” “Don’t text back too soon – you’ll look desperate.” Most of us are all too familiar with these statements and have, at one point, either perpetrated or been on the receiving end of dating’s informal commandment: playing hard to get.